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Parenting  pages continue to turn in Dad’s book. 

1/30/2022

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I will always be here for you. Until I’m not. That day and time is not known to either of us and it is not to be feared.

Your life is yours. Your success is yours. Your failure is yours just as my failures are mine. I’ve failed a lot. I got up and kept on going down my path. I want you to do the same but not have to get up as much as I did.

Seeing you fall/fail hurts me. I have to walk the line allowing for your free will but I never want you to fail and I want you to succeed period. For you. Not for me.

My path is mine. I walk it and you are bound to it as my child and as commanded in scripture. I chose you as your parent. As an adult. You must choose me as an adult. Freely. This is not trivial.

Your path is yours. I want to be nearby and walk with you often but choosing the direction is for you. I am bound to it as your father and as commanded in scripture. If and when I can help you, I will.

I am still walking my path. I figure this stuff out one step at a time and I often make it up as I go along. You are doing and will do the same.

I do not want to control you. I yearn to be able to protect and guide you whether you need it or not.

God willing, I’m not going anywhere any time soon.
I will always be here for you. Until I’m not. That day and time is not know to either of us and it is not to be feared. I know this because God loves you and me both.

We are specific beloved firstborn children of God above all. Both of us.
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4 steps forward that will fix Covid Panic for good

1/29/2022

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We all agree that medicine and public health have become far too political and partisan. The fix is available.

1. Government (Biden) must publicly communicate that the only goal is for people to live healthy and happy lives in their own terms.
2. He must say that vaccine mandates are bad but he believes that they are saving lives. That train has already left the station.
3. He must accept that natural immunity is a thing, vaccines don’t last, vaccines can’t beat Covid, and treatment of the disease both proactively and retroactively is the way forward. People ARE going to get sick. The messaging should be : we have the knowledge and technology to help you stay alive and it is getting better every day. Restoring trust in local doctors is the best and ONLY real path forward. The political leadership and bureaucrats must empower doctors and get out of the press. Period.
4. He must remove the masking mandates. They are too invasive and divisive and are distracting from the goal to save lives and make lives better. Pulling the explosives from this ongoing feud is critical. Leadership must focus on results. Masking doesn’t meet the standard of proof. It isn’t sustainable and consistent.

Restoring any level of trust in government messaging will take years. It needs to start now.

FWIW. I don’t think that he will do any of this because it requires honesty and integrity and it isn’t politically popular. He doesn’t care about results in my opinion, he and the political ruling and academic elite only care about power and control.
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Turning the page into 2022

1/3/2022

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  1. Constant and repeated criticism kills even if it is well intentioned. There may be a better way to do something. There always is, but the constant defensive system behaviors that a pattern of criticism creates is toxic. There is a time and place for critique but it must be much more rare for relationships to grow.
  2. Comparison is root of both failure and success but too much of it literally destroys motivation allowing a focus on failures and gaps in place of progress and change.
  3. There is nothing more important than the people and the moment in front of you. When you choose to prioritize the messaging, the stories, the feed, you are hurting those around you. Put the freaking iPhones down when you are around people that you care about.
  4. Show respect and deference to parents. Period. This doesn’t mean you agree or like choices and decisions. You are allowed to be upset but showing respect is required. Time and space provide perspective. Use them.
  5. Proactive consideration of family MUST be a priority. Self care is absolutely necessary, but it must be balanced with equal or greater attention on others.
  6. If you say you will do something at a specific time. Do it. If you will not, then say no. Others count on you. If they can’t count on you, it is very bad.
  7. To be involved in others lives, you must be involved in their lives. Doing, helping, participating whether you like it or not.
  8. We must do things that we specifically do not like regardless. Relationships require this. The actions must go both ways.
  9. Words are not enough. Choices, actions, and time must be spent on someone other than ourself.
  10. What others think (optics) do matter but our cultural balance is out of whack. The most important people are the chosen ones not the mass. Popularity is not success.
  11. Ask others what makes them happy. Do it assume that you know. You must ask. Bother the ask and the answer have importance to all parties in the conversation.
  12. Listen to what others say. Every word. Every direction. Carefully and intentionally. If you don’t understand something do not save your ego and sit in silence. Ask a clarifying question. Learn, And do things differently.
  13. In family, EVERYONE is equal and we are responsible for one another’s successes and failures. Park the ego and just be there to do and help.
  14. Being right is never enough. Success is about scale and duration and it requires a platform of support. This platform is built on family first, whether we like it or not. We DECIDE who family is. Family is “on the wall”
  15. Willful ignorance is not something to celebrate. Failure is okay, but it is not something to celebrate. Own the fails and we can own the wins.


Unmet expectations cause injury. Period. Met expectations have a short lifespan in memory. All too often they are taken for granted. The focus always turns to the mistakes and misses. This is human reality and requires constant intention to remediate. The consequences of assuming are bad.


Expectations that have not been communicated, clarified, AND agreed upon will not be met. This is a foundation for progress.
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