Raising a child to be happy and productive and to not take for granted all of the advantages provided them. How? My children benefit from my decisions and support but they make their own. If they become entitled and poorly educated with little understanding of where they come from then the fault lies with me as the elder and senior.
Blame and shame is pathetic and useless. The young and uninformed do not know. The obligation to model, share, and teach values and principles while upholding standards AND maintaining relationships is on the elder/parent/mentor. The apprentice journeyman must understand and embrace their role under the authority and experience of the elder but they must be left free to question and innovate. This balance is the essential spark of success.
When we choose to blame and shame, or claim credit and crow as we inevitably do we must remember the balance and dependency.
Failure brings a fault line just as success does. We must release the pressure a little at a time and manage the explosion of energy to capture and evolve.
Intersection of principles and practices...